” I knew of gay ice skaters, men, but no women. And since the book came out, I have gotten floods of emails from, yes, lesbian ice skaters. Turns out we exist, and I couldn’t be happier.”… read more

“More often than not, I discover while writing about the shame-inducing events I’ve experienced that the personal inadequacies I have are more universal than I originally realized.”… read more

“The cults and intentional communities with a strong utopian streak often find that the effort leads to a highly unstable, virtually impossible way of living […]”… read more

“So much of my writing is self-amusement. I’m writing what makes me laugh.”… read more

“I think in some ways the message of the books is to have enormous empathy because you don’t know what someone else is going through.”… read more

“There is a tendency to simplify things [….] The truth is in the contradiction and juxtaposition.”… read more

“We deserve joy and pleasure, and though there’s much hard work to be done, we have to make sure we’re still making space for those good feelings.”… read more

“Nothing wrong with assimilation, but it leaves behind the rest of us who maybe don’t want to be like everyone else. The fight isn’t over.”… read more

“I’m at a point in my life where I’m very comfortable with my identity as a bisexual woman and I’m very proud of my identity, and I’m very open about it, and I think that being open is a real pleasure and a real privilege…”… read more

“I love writing about extremes […]. I wanted to create characters who were intense, some so much so that it seems like a magical energy.”… read more