Jack Halberstam: Queers Create Better Models of Success
Posted on 01. Feb, 2012 by Sinclair Sexsmith in Interviews

“…weâre living with one model of success and failure and one model alone. And that model is, that to make money and to advance professionally is what it means to be successful, and everything else is failure. That’s given us a zero-sum model against which we can judge our achievements in life, and thatâs very unfortunate…”
You may know his name as “Judith,” but he’s been going by Jack since The Drag King Book, and, he says, “it’s stuck.” Jack Halberstam is Professor of English and Director of The Center for Feminist Research at USC, teaching courses in queer studies, gender theory, art, literature and film. He is the author of Female Masculinity, The Drag King Book, Skin Shows: Gothic Horror and the Technology of Monsters and In a Queer Time and Place: Transgender Bodies, Subcultural Lives.
In September 2011, Duke University published Halberstam’s most recent book, The Queer Art of Failure, a fascinating examination of how âwe conceive of the idea of failure in our society, not so that we may correct ourselves, but so that we may see how our various âfailuresâ may actually produce a preferable alternative to conformist lifestyles and the status quo.â
Sinclair Sexsmith sat down with Jack to talk pronouns, Occupy Wall Street, queer parenting, gay marriage, academics, butch identity, and the queer art of failure.
First things first, do you have a preferred gender pronoun?
You know, people are kind of calling me he nowadays. Iâm going with that. Itâs been such an issue, this name business.
 When did the change happen? Iâve noticed it shift to Jack off the record, but it seems like on your books itâs still Judith officially.
When I was doing all that research on drag kings, I was like, well Iâm not going to be Judith in this world of genderqueerness, Iâm going by a male name. And at that point, I kind of wish Iâd gone with the name Jude, because it wouldâve been an easier transition for everybody, and for me too, and instead I just picked a very masculine name, I picked Jack, and now itâs stuck. So Iâm Jack. But now Iâm going more and more by JackâIâm not transitioning, necessarily, but Iâm in a lot of genderqueer contexts where people do gender by gender preference, not by your body, and I totally appreciate that. But then I suddenly had to face up to the question of whether Jack was my preferred name or not. So some people call me Jack, my sister calls me Jude, people who Iâve known forever call me JudithâI try not to police any of it. A lot of people call me he, some people call me she, and I let it be a weird mix of things and Iâm not trying to control it. My next book thatâs coming out in the fall, Gaga Feminism, is going to be under the name Jack. Itâs going to be an unacademic press.
 So it will be less academic in content, too?
I hope so. I meant for The Queer Art of Failure not to be too academic, but academics are never a good judge of our own accessibility. I think thereâs a lot of stuff in The Queer Art of Failure that everyone can read, and then there are a few chapters that are just really for academics and others might be frustrated by it. Thatâs how itâs going to beâitâs a little like the name thing, you canât please everyone.
 The âLow Theoryâ introduction seems very accessible and features references I understand. I donât really watch Sponge Bob or Dude Whereâs My Car, but I comprehend it.
Yesâitâs part of the culture that you live and breathe, whether you are actively engaged with it or not. I think that does make it more accessible, and I have been enjoying going to bookstores and speaking to people who are interested in ideas as well as sometimes undergrads or university facultyâI enjoy the challenge of trying to engage all of those different groups at the same time. I think itâs something academics donât work as hard at as maybe we should, that finding larger platforms for our ideas than just speaking to each other at conferences.
 Is that the ivory tower issue?
We donât really live in an age anymore where we can talk about the ivory tower, we live in an age where both universities and other people are increasingly calling for certain forms of accountability from academics, wanting to know, what is it that you do? How can it be something that I can relate to? And I think in the Humanities in particular, thatâs a reasonable question, and people should be able to answer it.
 What are you doing with The Queer Art of Failure in particular? Whatâs the premise?
The premise of The Queer Art of Failure is that at this moment, intense capitalist accumulation, weâre living with one model of success and failure and one model alone. And that model is, that to make money and to advance professionally is what it means to be successful, and everything else is failure. That’s given us a zero-sum model against which we can judge our achievements in life, and thatâs very unfortunate, because it squashes out all kinds of people doing alternative things for alternative reasons that may be much more valuable to their communities and to the world. So if youâre absolutely dedicated to organic farming, recycling, playing in a punk band on the weekend, and blogging, and you do some temp work in your spare time, youâre making a big contribution to the world we live in but you are not able to feed into the model of success that weâve set out. So the book suggests that in such a moment, the moment of Occupy Wall Street and the one percent and the 99%, we need better models of success and failure. We need to measure ourselves against different standards. And the book proposes that queer people have actually been doing this for a long time precisely because we quickly fall out of the prevailing model of success and failure by not managing to meet the standards of gender and sexuality set for us by our usually straight families. Therefore there might be insights into failure that come out of queer art and queer culture.
So the title is not just queer as in odd, but queer as in the LGBTQIIA etc communities?
 Yesâboth. There is something very queer about the art of failure that is odd, anti-normative, perplexing, and then there is something queer about it that has a critical, political spin to it.
 Whatâs your take on the Occupy Wall Street movements?
One of the things Iâve been trying to theorize about with people, and Iâve written about this on Bully Bloggers and other places, is that these kinds of insurrections and movements are not necessarily just about the people who are there, on site, doing the occupation, but theyâre also then about how we spread the information, how we spread the ideas that come out of the occupation, and how we narrate for the press and for general communities what it means to be protesting in the first place. So I consider myself part of the wider sphere, through whom ideas are traveling that can be considered part of the occupation.
 I see my work that way too; Iâm contributing to those worlds but Iâm not actually standing there on Wall Street.
A lot of people are finding our own ways in. As with a lot of these movements, they happen in New York, then they happen another way everywhere else. Everyone canât all be in New York. Thereâs kind of elitism there too, a provincializing move that says, âIf youâre doing something and itâs not in New York, youâre not really doing it.â I think itâs very important in that sense to also not simply just have a lot of places that are not just mimicking what happens in New York.
In New York you have very particular geographyâwhere you could pass through Wall Street, there is a street where banking happens. Thatâs not true in LA, or in San Francisco, in the same way. Other more postmodern cities are set up with much more dispersed forms of business and so the tactic is going to be different in different places. In other places the tactics are going to be much more virtual than physical. In New York it made sense that it was physical.
In your new book, it seems like thereâs a lot about pop culture as a queer text; I often dismiss pop culture as not representing me or my interest or my community at all. Where is the bridge between those worlds, and how do those connections happen for you?
Youâre articulating a very common and important position, which is that for a lot of queer people who are forced to engage with pop culture, they donât find a lot there that is really about them. But at the same time, we donât want to retreat into an avant-garde world where everything has to be identity oriented and identity based, and is just alternative small scale cultural production. We live in a world where popular culture is a kind of currency. And itâs important to be able to trade in it. Weâre all exposed to pop culture, and pop culture is exposed to usâpeople who make pop culture are also exposed to the queer worlds that we inhabit, so there are inevitably little areas of overlap. Those areas of overlap between queer communities and popular culture are very important, because it gives you a platform for expression and for ideas to circulate through that isnât completely insular to your community. Think about it as a platform, rather than as just some multi-million dollar corporate venture that is there to exploit people and to continue to circulate models of normativity. Pop culture is [uncontrollable], it goes viral very quickly, it contains all kinds of contradictions, and itâs a very lively atmosphere for debate and disagreements and contradictions. So I personally get a lot of pleasure from pop culture and I find it to be a very rich resource. And I find itâs a good place for me to connect with readers, who may not have read the latest thing in queer theory but who have recently seen an animated film or something like that.
 Do you see an increase of queer representation in pop culture?
I think itâs more that queer culture has more borders that it shares with pop culture than used to be the case. There used to be more of a split, mainstream culture seemed really different from what we were doing in queer cultures, and now thereâs much more overlap. The people who make popular cultureâwho make animated films, TV shows, blockbustersâmany of them are gay. Iâm not saying theyâre queer, but Hollywood is bursting at the seams with gay and lesbian people, and some of those people do have queer sensibilities, and some of those queer sensibilities do make their way in. So weâd be crazy to see ourselves as a little isolated island of radical cultural production that bore no resemblance to this sea of popular culture in which weâre all immersed. Thatâs a fantasy. Weâre all immersed all the time in popular culture, and weâre also engaged in independent ways with our own communities.
 I like this idea of failure as progress and, especially when thereâs only one true model of success, looking at the ways that falling short is actually a learning process and a remaking of what normal is or what success there is in general. In some of the work I do, my teachers speak of the wound being the gift.
Thatâs exactly right, the wound can be the gift, the thing that marks you as other can be the place that you actually want to claim as your own, not the place you want to leave. A lot of people in queer studies have a critique of gay marriage politics precisely because it only sees the wound as a wound: the wound of exclusion, weâre not allowed to get married, becomes, âWe need to heal this wound by being allowed to get married.â In a lot of queer studies people donât want to go that route theoretically. What we want to say is, our exclusion from the institution of marriage actually provides us a possibility rather than being a liability. The fact that weâre excluded from marriage cultureâparticularly women, people who have been socialized in female bodiesâbeing excluded from marriage culture is not a bad thing. Feminists for two, three hundred years have been saying that marriage is the coercion of young women into dependence and subsidiary roles in relationship to men. Suddenly, when gays and lesbians decide that theyâve been excluded from a constitutional right, we forget our feminist critiques of marriage, and we forgetâexactly what youâre sayingâthat the wound can be the gift, and the exclusion can actually provide us with knowledge with how to do intimacy separately from these state-sponsored regulatory institutions.
If we donât have to remake it on our own, we donât have to question what the culture is giving us.
 Precisely. More and more, queer studies becomes a place for these very lively and complicated critiques of what passes for mainstream gay and lesbian politics elsewhere. And thatâs a really importunate function of queer studies, itâs hard to explain why marriage may not be the best thing for them to put their money and their time and their efforts into. We donât always do a good job of that. But itâs important for people to see that, in the spectrum of political goals that a queer movement might set out for itself, marriage should be way, way down on the list and there are other social justice issues that are far more pressing.
 Did you always think you would go into queer studies, or did you have your eye on another career?
If I had another career, I would have tried to be a journalist. I always had a fantasy about doing film reviews, and a lot of the stuff I do is film review like, in some sense. I started writing film reviews for a local queer paper as a grad student and I really enjoyed that. I also really like teaching, itâs an important part of what it means to me to be an academic, and the journalism option gives me only one piece of the thing I like to do. So despite having plenty of critiques about the university and the way it trains people, Iâm not sure I could imagine doing other things. Itâs hard to be in the university at this moment, especially in the humanities, partly because the humanities are so undervalued. Unlike other people who have other kinds of jobs, academics have very little say in where they go and where they live, you have to go where the job is, and once there, itâs not so easy to change it later on. So that said, itâs an incredible privilege to be able to write and teach and think for a living, and itâs a privilege that is increasingly becoming endangered. The university is filling up with non-tenured track people who are really churning out classes, churning out students, doing remedial education. So even though I have complaints, I recognize I am very privileged to be in the position Iâm in. Iâm very happy with the career that I have.
 Do you create your own classes and do fun queer pop culture analysis?
Some of it is like thatâfor example this semester Iâm teaching intro to gender and sexualities for 150 students, and many of them are business majors, most of them are straight. I have a few queer and transgender people in the class who speak up regularly, but I also have a large group of heterosexual young men and women who need to be convinced. And thatâs a tough teaching gig. And thatâs the kind of thing I really like, that I really relish. I donât think itâs easy, but I think itâs important. This is the only time some of these people are going to hear some of these ideas, and itâs important not to alienate them in the process of exposing them to the material.
So I tend to teach it by focusing quite a bit of time and energy questioning heterosexuality rather than simply exposing them to what queer life looks like, because then it becomes a kind of talk show sensational thing. Itâs much more interesting to get them thinking abut their own socialization as heterosexuals, something theyâve almost never had to think about at all, but once they do open up to thinking about it, they get very excited about, and they have a lot to say. I enjoy it and I totally appreciate that students show up for these kinds of classes and struggle through them. Itâs one of the real challenges of the university is bringing these kind of world-changing radical ideas to large groups of young people who donât know why they should care, and doing it in a way that has a lasting impact on them. Itâs a place where you can feel really good about what you do, in university. A lot of what we do can be seen as quite irrelevant, you know, conferencing, and department meetings, and other squabbles with other academics can be seen as self indulgent naval gazing, but some of the stuff we do in the classroom is really important. I greatly value what it means to be a teacher and have a lot of respect for people who are doing the teaching of much younger people.
 Most of the folks in my circles know you mostly because of your work with female masculinity and visibilityâand your general image of being a hot, masculine of center icon in these communities. Can you expand a little on your theories about female masculinity?
This is part of the fun of being an academic, is that you can reinvent yourself with each book. But what remains a constant for me is an interest in female masculinity and alternative forms of masculinity in marginalized positions that get seen as freakish or monstrous or unpalatable in the culture. In the new book, Iâm trying to do something a little bit different. Iâm really issuing a call to academics about low theory, about doing a different kind of theorizing as well as the high theory that gets all the acclaim, doing something lower that might put you in touch with different kinds of conversations. Thereâs a real commitment in the book to finding ways to theorize issues around social transformation from within the university, and then there are pieces that are about queer culture and the ways in which, for example, the masculine woman is seen as both a failed woman and a failed man. She becomes the absolute embodiment of the queer art of failure. And to the extent that the masculine woman is willing and able to recraft her body and her gender position into one of strength, sheâs recreating the model of success in the process. The butch body remains an iconic and representationally rich site for me, whatever book Iâm working on.
The new book I just finished, Gaga Feminism, has a chapter that asks what happens in queer families when there is one partner who is gender variant, so the kid is not relating to two lesbian moms, but to a lesbian mom and a butch dad. I have a whole thing in that book about the recreation of fatherhood in relation to butchness. Sometimes I get really irritated when Iâm around other queer couples where one person is kind of clearly butch and the other is clearly less butch, but the butch partner is still called âmom.â I think, whatâs that about? Why do you want to be called mom? Nothing could be further from my desire, in parenting, than to be called mom. So, weâre doing this queer parenting thing, but the roles of mom and dad have remained completely stable? Only women can be mom, only men can be dad? Whatâs that about? Itâs another frontier where we need better and more interesting ways of thinking about how gender interacts with social functions like parenting.
 I know some butch âmomsâ who are going by poppy or baba, but theyâre constantly othered, not feeling like they have community and confused about the parenting process from their perspective.
This is where Gaga Feminism is going to be very useful, because I write about what itâs going to be like to be the gender variant dad to very gender normative kids. The thing is that the kids do the coming out part for you. So I tell a lot of anecdotes about being with one or the other of my kids, a boy and a girl, and sometimes the girl just introduces me to her friendsâ parents as her step-dad, and the parents will look at me like, âYouâre the step-dad?â And I say, yeah, Iâm the step-dad. They see that their kid is going with it, so they go with it. The boy I parent, heâs very cool, heâs not embarrassed in front of his guy friends, he just says, âYeah, thatâs my other dad.â They say, âHow can she be your dad?â He responds, âWell, sheâs a he-she, sheâs not just a she, sheâs a boy-girl.â They have names that they use to explain this stuff to their friends.
It seems like genderâs not quite so rigidified in little kids. They may not get it, but they accept it. As a kid there are a lot of things you donât get, but you accept.
Yes, itâs a more mobile and flexible relationship to the world in general, and that means that at this age they just accommodate the information, they don’t come at it from a place of judgment. And that works really well for queer parenting, because by the time theyâre in the position where they might have judgments, theyâve already been socialized into that queer family, theyâve already bonded. Once theyâre bonded theyâre not as interested in the critique. Thatâs what the book is trying to tell people, particularly younger folks who are moving into this parenting mode and unsure what it holds. Itâs going to be easier than you think, because for the kids itâs seamless.
 Iâm looking forward to reading that. I didnât realize you were a parent! Is this new?
Four years. I got involved with someone who had two kids, so thatâs how it works. When I met her, they were quite little kids. Theyâre now 6 and 8. So theyâre now a more user-friendly age, you can actually interact with them. [Laughs] We have a very queer setup, my partnerâs ex is also in the picture, so they have a relation to their dad and to his partner. And thatâs what it means to be a family, you have a lot of pieces, and sometimes we all hang out and sometimes we donât. People are there for you in different ways, and one person doesnât do everything for you, there are many people. I think thatâs a good model, personally. Iâm a big recommender of divorce for that reason, because with divorces come more parents.
Sometimes I think in families people get locked in to abusive dynamics partly because there is no outside. As long as there are families the kids go back and forth between, one personâs potentially damaging behavior is really leavened by everything else. Weâd like to think of child abuse as being a breed apart, but everyone can get into situations where theyâre not treating kids fairly, where theyâre not on their game. And the circulation of kids among adults actually, I think, lessens the possibility that theyâre going to be subject to one particularly abusive adult.
Thereâs a study going around about how lesbian parents produce a child abuse rate of 0%.
Wait and seeâ there’ll be a whole generation of lesbian-raised kids who will tell you otherwise in ten years. Thatâs the experience of being a kid, you experience the world in a profoundly undemocratic way, your opinion is not always solicited, things happen to you that are not of your choosing, and parents are generally tyrannical because they have to be, in all kinds of situations, simply to get through the day. And that means a lot of what we call parenting in families are vectors for the transmission of forms of power that are tyrannizing. So inevitably there are people who down the road are going to feel hard-done by it. And they will eventually find a way to link lesbians to certain forms of abuse, but the real problem is not lesbians, the real problem is parenting itself, and that we live in a society that gives parents very few options. This is particularly true of poor people, people raising kids without adequate resources, thereâs no safety net in this country, and there are really no good ways for people who are making under a reasonable amount of money a year to get a break. Thatâs the setup that creates bad parenting, itâs not whether youâre gay straight or trans.
 I was behind Top Hot Butches in 2009, a list in which youâre included. Whatâs your own relationship to the word butch?
Butch has been a great term for me, when I encountered it, it seemed like I finally had a word for what it was that I experienced as embodiment, so I really clung to it. Iâm somebody who has seen several waves of transgender activism since I came out, but I still hold onto it, I recognize that it may in fact be descriptive of people of my generation and be less descriptive of younger folks, and I donât need to hang on to a word that doesnât work for other people, but I do tend to use it about myself. I like the idea of being a transgender butch, which is that you are completely cross-gender identified, that masculinity is what defines you but youâre not trying to live in the world as a man. Thatâs the difference between me and a transgender man.
Itâs not totally important to my understanding of self that other people read me as a man. Itâs important that they read me as masculine, and itâs important that they read me in some way that Iâm at odds with female embodiment. But itâs also important that they read me as someone who is not going to have that tension resolved by getting some surgeries. We’re living in a moment where people are pretty creative about their relationship to gender variance, and I think that the queer worlds we live in can tolerate a lot of different gender designations, so I donât see why we canât hold onto âbutchâ along with a whole set of other markers and identity, difference, embodiment, masculinity, variance and so on.
What do you think about the term âmasculine of centerâ?
I think it presumes a center, Iâm not sure about that. It presumes a scale that we all know and recognize. I donât always know that I know what another queer personâs masculinity means anymore. I used to think I knew, but I realized I didnât. For a lot of young masculine female bodied people who decide to transition, theyâre doing so not because theyâre so invested in masculinity but because theyâre invested in forms of maleness that are then going to be in relation to other forms of maleness. They want to be gay men! In that scenario, masculinity isnât the most important vector for them, itâs male embodiment or perceived male embodiment. My orientation is very much to feminine women, so butch still seems to have some sort of signifying power, given my set of desires and orientations. But masculine of center presumes that thereâs an ideal, and that ideal presumes all kinds of things about race and class, and that we all know an ideal form when we see it. I canât get into that kind of normative classification system that has a center and has margins. Itâs a kind of colonial way of thinking about things, that there is a center and there are margins, and everyoneâs aspiring to be center.
It doesnât seem like thereâs a very agreed-upon standard; every time a new term is introduced, it doesnât become an umbrella, but just adds another term.
Nobody should accept one standard way of saying things, but I want this to be clear too, that at the same time you canât have endless varieties of people naming themselves, we do live in a world of categories. Some of those categories have contemporary currency and some donât. So what butch meant to me in the 1990s is not what butch means now to people. But you canât just come up with your own name and expect everyone to know what it means, we live with language and the restrictions that language gives us. Some of those restrictions are around intelligibility and legibility. If I call myself a blanket, you know, âI donât have a gender, so Iâm saying blank, then adding et.â Well okay, interesting, but you canât go around in the world saying, âIâm a blanket,â and expect anyone to know what you mean. They donât. In fact, terms need communities of users in order to give them validity. Transgender became a term because it explains something that was missing from this medical classification of cross identified bodies, and there was a community of people who wanted to use the term. But each and every personâs own understanding of self doesn’t deserve a name. We also have to group, we have to come up with shorthand and terms that we share and ways of thinking about ourselves in relationship to others. Unfortunately we live in an age where everyone thinks theyâre different, that their genders are so unique it canât be expressed through common language. Well, itâs probably not that unique, when you really question that person you find out that itâs a run of the mill variation on something known.
 Being communicable is important, too.
Yes, communicable. There are categories out there for the way you feel. Iâve nothing against creating new categories, but you donât do it as an individual, you do it as a community.
 Since there are a lot of queer book nerds who read this site, whatâs the best queer book youâve read in recent months?
Iâm a big fan of Chandan Reddyâs book, Freedom With Violence, and Fatima El-Tayebâs book, European Others: Queering Ethnicity in Post National Europe. I liked Justin Bondâs new memoir, Tango, thatâs a beautiful book. Iâm a big advocate of King Kong Theory by Virginie Despentes and Stephanie Benson. A couple I mentioned are very heavy academic, but I like the crossover books where people are thinking but using their own experiences, too.
 Do you mostly read theory? Or do you have a secret indulgence?
I love novels. Iâm not just an academic reader. I read a lot, partly because it goes with the job, but when I relax Iâll probably read a novel.
 Itâs a pleasure to talk to you, Iâm a big fan of your work. We ran into each other at the Lammyâs last year, I thinkâ
Yes I think so! And who knows, maybe we will again!
 Letâs hope The Queer Art of Failure is a finalist! Anything else to add?
Iâm super excited about The Queer Art of Failure and that people have been reading it. And in September 2012, look for Gaga Feminism: Sex, Gender, and the End of Normal  from Beacon Press.
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Hey, great interview! It’s inspiring to read how JH relates pop culture to queer academia. I was just wondering, based on the context, whether there is an “un” missing in the sentence “Pop culture is controllable”?
Also, for the record, the 0% lesbian child abuse study that came out was covered on HuffPost and quite a few other places. I intended to link to that in the article but that slipped through my fingers in the editing process.
2 things.
I find this:
“Sometimes I get really irritated when Iâm around other queer couples where one person is kind of clearly butch and the other is clearly less butch, but the butch partner is still called âmom.â I think, whatâs that about? Why do you want to be called mom?”
really sad. Why do you care what other people have chosen to be called? Why does it upset you? I know butch moms and femme fag dads. Not everyone feels the same way about those words that you do, I just don’t understand why that is irritating instead of great? I think that “Nothing could be further from my desire, in parenting, than to be called mom.” is just fine.
As for the lesbian parenting study, there is a lot to say about it from a research perspective. For instance, it has not yet been replicated, and the sample was self-selecting. Also, the order in which they asked the questions: have you ever been abused? yes / no followed up by questions about specific types of abuse may have reduced the number of positive responses. (You can get the full text of the study free from here: http://www.nllfs.org/publications/ it is the 2010 study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior.)
From the perspective of someone who has worked with LGBTQ survivors of partner abuse and who currently researches effects of various types of child abuse, what we know is that there are similar rates of partner abuse among people regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity (www.avp.org for more in depth statistics – they have yearly reports on partner violence in our communities) AND witnessing abuse between parents is a type of child abuse (just for a theoretical overview: EDLESON, JL in Interpersonal Violence, Aug 1999, you can get the full article here: ncdsv.org). Let’s support more research – and also reading the actual study, instead of a news blurb about it.
* the ‘you’ in the first section is clearly for Jack Halberstam, not Sinclair, sorry, I meant to post a comment, not hit reply.
Thanks for this comment. As for “why do you care what other people have chosen to be called.” it is not that I am trying to police what other people do, I am trying to think about the ways in which the category of “mom” is incredibly elastic but the category of father (a powerful category by any standards) remains protected and reserved for people living in male bodies. What I am irritated by then is not the person him/herself who chooses to be called “mom” but the culture that regulates the meanings of the terms “mom” and “dad” and maintains them as stable when in fact new queer families have completely destabilized their meanings! It matters greatly what we call ourselves and each other and it is not a matter simply of personal preference. There is a tremendous amount of judgment in your comments and a weird scolding tone that comes across as very personal. In my conversation with Sinclair, we were not at all trying to prescribe, we were thinking through some new topics that are tricky and complex.
This is such a great interview! I appreciate how you touched on many different hot topics and elicited some ideas from Jack that are fresh and provocative. I’m right there with his assessments of marriage, parenting, heteronormative models of success (i.e. non-consensual social and economic dominance), but I would push back on his views on naming, language, and critiquing “masculine of center.” I don’t think it’s perfect, I think academia likes us to be categorizable (I don’t think it’s actually necessary for social connection and survival, and I’m happy to call someone blanket), and I think our language is so dominated by racism and classism that a white college professor can’t define these parameters for naming for social belonging with any sort of authority or humility. I’m super excited to read Queer Art of Failure. Thanks, Sinclair!
Very cool interview, but it interests me how some postmodern academics (if that’s correct here) can get oddly prescriptive in some ways themselves. I very much ID as butch, but I don’t consider myself “masculine” – although perhaps conventional people might well regard me as more masculine as an “average” woman.
Secondly, if I were to have a child, I wouldn’t want to be called “dad” or anything like it. I know plenty of butch women with kids who enjoy being mothers with ALL that implies. What is wrong with them choosing to be addressed as “mom”? And of course, plenty of others who would be tickled pink to be called dad. But I wouldn’t want that label with the baggage THAT implies.
I’m kind of feeling here like that situation where because you’re butch, you love sports? Uh no. I do make a mean cocktail, however.
You are butch but not masculine? I have no idea what “butch” may mean here then. Butch is historically and currently the designated term for a masculine woman. So that’s how I was using the term here!
I’m really enjoying these longer pieces–much more room to really chew things over. Thanks, LLF. Thanks Jack and Sinclair.
Wow, this interview answered all the questions I had about you, Jack. I was a huge fan of Female Masculinity when I first read it, and it very much helped me understand my own appreciation and love of butch women–so I was a little sad at first when learning of your name and pronoun change. Not to say anything negative about anyone’s identity, but I just wanted to know where you stood on these issues after writing that book, and it helps to think of it as a temporal thing because you’re right, butch in a 2012 context is so different from what it must have been for you in 1990. I wish I had known to appreciate it in 1990!
I do have one question though, in regard to your discussion of ‘masculine of center’. I find that term useful–in an academic, not actually useful kind of way–but it does have a certain clarity and universality to it that other terms don’t have because they’re charged, or contextually dependent. Do you think it’s possible that ‘center’ in that context could just mean the middle line of a gender scale from 1 to 10, feminine to masculine? Then center isn’t an ideal at all, but something that marks the difference between more butch and more femme, and masculine of center just means on the 5-10 side of the scale? I think that might be really useful when discussing female masculinity and all its iterations these days.